Understanding Relationships as Systems
A system has a goal, modular capabilities, and an internal structure of coordination. For your wife, child or for a friend ... If this relationship was progressing towards a goal (possibly shared, to the benefit of most, and sustainable so, then enacting your capabilities as well as their, and if you were in cooperation with them too ...
And to do this ... if you could stop for a moment and understand their goals, capacities, and internal communication ... hard isn't it?
But, what if the solutions that work came from this perspective?
What I just revealed is the essence of therapy, consulting and even leadership ...
It's also advised to be enacted with mind, labor and heart. Think again ... Then again ...
On Sustainability:
Strategic thinking works to maximize personal gain. Everybody tries to maximize their interests. Everyone in a struggle against everyone. Whereas, from the system thinking viewpoint we understand that only with cooperation and in the long run and by creating sustainability do systems remain successful. That is to say, success is not something that requires you to sell your soul. Do not do this for the money, money will not bring this to you. Nor will your ego. Because, people in our day have confused happiness with pleasure or ego - that's where they search for it. Pleasure is not sustainabile beyond a point, nor is the ego. It leads to narcisistic or hystrionic personality disorders. Uncontrolled seeking of pleasure leads to addictions and, then, to depression. In our day, young people are unfortunately thinking they could get everything they want with money or ego, that's the legacy of individualism. It is possible to reach strategically, but I have not met anybody who is happy because they have accomplished that feat. And I've worked with thousands of people. On the contrary, they either turn out addicted or depressed. Or they are constantly struggling with anxiety.
What's sustainable? There is a system composed of 7 primary emotions. Success is one, but on the condition you give it up at a point. Another is joy of life. (Self-)confidence. Learning. Awareness. Love. Inner Peace. Systems built around those components are sustainable and optimal. And they contain all the necessary resources to deal with life.
A system has a goal, modular capabilities, and an internal structure of coordination. For your wife, child or for a friend ... If this relationship was progressing towards a goal (possibly shared, to the benefit of most, and sustainable so, then enacting your capabilities as well as their, and if you were in cooperation with them too ...
And to do this ... if you could stop for a moment and understand their goals, capacities, and internal communication ... hard isn't it?
But, what if the solutions that work came from this perspective?
What I just revealed is the essence of therapy, consulting and even leadership ...
It's also advised to be enacted with mind, labor and heart. Think again ... Then again ...
On Sustainability:
Strategic thinking works to maximize personal gain. Everybody tries to maximize their interests. Everyone in a struggle against everyone. Whereas, from the system thinking viewpoint we understand that only with cooperation and in the long run and by creating sustainability do systems remain successful. That is to say, success is not something that requires you to sell your soul. Do not do this for the money, money will not bring this to you. Nor will your ego. Because, people in our day have confused happiness with pleasure or ego - that's where they search for it. Pleasure is not sustainabile beyond a point, nor is the ego. It leads to narcisistic or hystrionic personality disorders. Uncontrolled seeking of pleasure leads to addictions and, then, to depression. In our day, young people are unfortunately thinking they could get everything they want with money or ego, that's the legacy of individualism. It is possible to reach strategically, but I have not met anybody who is happy because they have accomplished that feat. And I've worked with thousands of people. On the contrary, they either turn out addicted or depressed. Or they are constantly struggling with anxiety.
What's sustainable? There is a system composed of 7 primary emotions. Success is one, but on the condition you give it up at a point. Another is joy of life. (Self-)confidence. Learning. Awareness. Love. Inner Peace. Systems built around those components are sustainable and optimal. And they contain all the necessary resources to deal with life.
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